An old friend reached out to me a few months ago. I use the term “friend” loosely. We’re friends on Facebook and I used to attend church with her. I was her youngest daughter’s youth leader for a year. She contacted me when Sheehan was having all his surgeries earlier this year. She told me she felt God had given her my name to reach out to to get to know better.
Well…that’s nice…little weird. Why would she want to get to know me better? God gave her my name? I don’t even live near her anymore. Does she know that?
The thought of “getting to know someone better” sent my social anxiety through the roof. I told her I didn’t really have time at the moment because my son had been going through four surgeries and I really needed to focus on him.
She understood and said she would pray for Sheehan. Cool, I got out of that one. Phew!
Fast forward to last week. I got another message from her telling me she’d like to introduce me to a business associate.
A business associate? Say what? Are you freaking serious? This is why she was contacting me? I had seen some of her posts about Juice Plus. I deleted her message.
Then yesterday I got a message from her oldest daughter saying it had been so long since she’d seen me and would love to introduce me to a business associate friend.
What the…? I started getting mad.
I’ve had no contact with these people in over eight years and now they’re wanting me to go into “business” with them. I don’t want to sell Juice Plus. I don’t want to sell Amway. I don’t want to sell anything. I’m not a sales person. At. All. Also, I only have like two friends, so I wouldn’t have anyone to sell to anyway.
And based on their messages, they don’t even know anything about my life. They didn’t know my son was going through surgeries, even though I had posted about them on Facebook. And they didn’t know we moved over an hour away from them three years ago, which was also on Facebook. I don’t expect them to know that we moved, but anyone could have taken a look at my feed before sending me a message to see that Sheehan was going through surgeries.
I’ve had other friends ask me if I was interested in these “businesses.” One friend said, I just want to ask if you’re interested, if you’re not, that’s totally okay. I told her I wasn’t interested and she was genuinely okay with it. It didn’t impact our friendship at all. But to disguise your pyramid scheme or “business proposition” as an “I want to rekindle our friendship” or tell me “I’ve found a great way for you to get quality products at really cheap prices,” but never mention the word “Amway” until I’m 60 minutes into a “business meeting” before that word is ever mentioned on the night before a final exam (it happened)? Don’t do that. You’re just going to lose a friend or make things really, really awkward. Because you’re being dishonest.
This woman very well may have prayed over who she should contact for her business proposition. Maybe she looked at possibilities on Facebook while she prayed. And maybe while she was praying, she saw my avi and felt something tug at her heart. And maybe it was God telling her to contact me. But maybe God was telling her to contact me, so I could tell her how hurtful and offensive it is to use His name as a way to get me to expand her personal business.
And so that’s what I’ll do.
If you’re selling something and want people to work with you or under you or be in your pyramid scheme. Don’t beat around the bush. Just be honest with them. Don’t guilt them into it. Unless you’re looking to lose friends and acquaintances quickly.
(Now scroll down and buy one of my books. No beating around the bush.)
Have you had anyone do this to you?